Throughout my life I’ve been told that I’m either too skinny, too small, or too heavy.
I’m too much, but I don't do enough.
I should take on more responsibilities but don’t have opinions about it.
Speak up, but don’t.
Be an adult, but don’t try to be in control.
Be pretty but not too pretty.
Be great at what you do but don’t outshine others.
Laugh at the jokes but don’t laugh too loud: everyone likes a girl that appreciates humor - tastefully. It means you’re smart when you laugh on cue. Be funny but not too funny because you can’t command too much attention.
A tan is a sign of health, but don’t get too dark.
Step up, but be obedient.
Stand your ground, but don’t kick the door down.
Be sexy but not too much because then you’re a whore.
Be flattering, but not gushy.
Say yes, please and no thank you but never say “no”.
Be open but never set boundaries.
Thin out your eyebrows….no wait, make them thicker.
Smile, but don’t dare be caught without a smile on your face: guys only like friendly gals.
Go braless but don’t let your tits sag.
Be caring and compassionate but avoid having convictions; that makes you a bitch.
Be a leader, but not too loud.
Be appreciative, but not proud.
Be confident and calm, never boisterous or excited.
Cry and try to remain pretty as you do.
Only get angry when necessary and then be prepared to justify it.
Compassion is comfort for others, self compassion is considered selfish by others.
What does it mean to Live your Truth when others don’t allow themselves to? All of this. Women are encouraged to be confused because it disempowers us by distracting us to focus on getting “it right” when we could otherwise be focusing our energy into things that mean something to us. An empowered woman is still a scary figure in this world. While the idea of what “a woman is” in this world is slow to change, the choice I am making is to get out of the hamster wheel. So, this is my proclamation, my collective call on the bullshit.
Amy Poehler has a beautiful one in her memoir “Yes, Please” and many know the brilliant monologue recited by America Ferrera in “Barbie. I believe we all have one to say.
So, say it. Say yours out loud. Like bellowing on a mountain top: it won’t change the landscape but you will sure feel better and that’s a start.
Tania Isaac is an Intuitive Guide and Integrative Energy Healer dedicated to helping individuals align with their inner wisdom and embrace their highest healing potential. Through transformative sessions, she empowers others to navigate life with clarity, balance, and purpose.
Tania believes that each person holds the innate ability to heal when supported by nourishing practices that tend to the body, mind, and soul. Her unique sessions blend spiritual guidance, Integrative Energy Healing, and embodied yoga to create a deeply personalized healing experience.
Based in Santa Barbara, CA, Tania lives with her husband and their beloved rescue dog, Oreo. Her mission is to support empaths and seekers in reconnecting with their metaphysical gifts and inner strength.
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